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Have you ever come across a mentally focused or a highly focused person? I know I have, they have so many unique qualities that distinguish them from normal Individuals like us.
The best way to become like them is to learn what they do and how they do it. That’s what most people focus on.
But there are certain things that they avoid doing, things that they never do. Here’s a list of 14 things mentally focused people never do.
14 Things Highly Focused People Never Do
1. Dwell on the past
Spending time dwelling in the past is the last thing you should be doing. Face the fact, shit happens.
Crying over past desires holds you back and keeps you from growing.
You can’t go back and stop it from happening but you can work hard today and make sure it never happens again.
Highly focused people know that focusing on the past is a waste and it will only bring you sadness; accept your past, work hard every day to ensure you don’t face the same pitfalls again in the future.
2. Curse other people’s success
We all do this, don’t we? When we can’t see success in our lives, we hope even our peers don’t succeed. We resent their success, and indirectly try demotivating them so that they don’t achieve success.
Other than this being a complete waste of time, it’s a horrible thing for you to do. If you think you’ll feel happy seeing your friends stuck in the same place as you, you’re wrong!
They’ll learn from their mistakes and grow even stronger. And that’s exactly what you should do. Focus on your stuff instead of poking your noses and trying to bring your friend down.
3. Focus on their weaknesses
You can’t achieve greatness by focusing on your weaknesses. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, you should identify your strengths, work on them, polish them and learn to achieve success from them.
Focusing on your weaknesses and being sad that you’re not good at something is a waste of time and should be avoided. Instead, devote that time polishing your strengths.
Highly focused people focus on their strengths and use that to overcome their weaknesses. Next time you feel like your weaknesses depict your personality, look in the mirror and think of your strengths. That’s your real personality!
4. Play the blame game
Do you know what’s easy? To blame someone else. Especially blame them when it’s your fault. Mentally focused people know that playing the blame game will only result in fights and chaos.
If you messed up something, owe it and take responsibility for your actions. Don’t be weak and throw the blame on someone else. That shows signs of weakness and foolishness, are you weak and foolish? I doubt you’re that.
So what are you going to do next time you mess up something? Take complete responsibility for your actions and stop blaming the other person.
5. Focusing on things you can’t control
As a human being, I have this great tendency to focus on things I can’t control like economic conditions, climate, your past, and future, what other people think about you, and so on.
What you can change is how you react to a given situation. Mentally focused people know that focusing on things you can’t control won’t give you results, it will only give you pain and misery.
That’s why they avoid it and focus on things they can control like their efforts, their present, how much they make, how much they spend, their habits, and so on.
Leave that you can’t control fate and focus on what you can control!
6. Ignore advice from others
There are two ways to learn something. One is by doing it all by yourself and the other is asking someone for their thoughts on the subject.
The fastest way to learn and grow is by talking to someone else and taking advice from them. Highly focused people know that only foolish people avoid seeking advice from others.
Smart individuals are always keen on asking for advice, it helps them grow faster. Always seek advice from those who have had success in your industry.
7. They avoid gossiping
Do you bad talk about your friends behind their back? Gossiping is a very bad habit and if you’re doing it, just stop it. Mentally focused people hate gossiping about others. It doesn’t improve them at all.
If you’re friends gossip about someone, explain to them why gossiping is bad and walk away from such people.
8. They don’t multitask
Hustler Alert! I repeat, Hustler Alert! A hustler is someone who works all day long, very hard, and achieves a lot in the process.
The problem with a hustler or any other person is multitasking. You may feel like you’re accomplishing so much in a short period if you multitask, but in reality, you’re accomplishing nothing.
You can’t focus on two things at once. You can shift your focus from one thing to another and back to the first thing multiple times.
All this does is creates confusion in your mind, and you end up not understanding anything. Sure you’ll get the work done but the result will be much slower than what you would’ve accomplished if done one at a time.
9. Please everyone all the time
Are you a people pleaser too? I know I was at one time but I soon realized it’s not what I should do. You can’t always make everyone happy. Your focus should be to improve yourself and make yourself happy.
No one deserves to be happy as much as you do. Stop saying yes to everyone all the time. If you are busy, say no. If they hate you for that, understand that they aren’t your real friends.
Weak people feel the need to please everyone while a confident person knows that he or she doesn’t need to please everyone, only a few will do as long as he/she thinks what they did is correct.
You don’t need approval from others, you need it from yourself.
10. They don’t procrastinate
Procrastination is a challenge we face in our day-to-day lives. From hitting the snooze button to going to the gym to eating healthy food to study when you feel drowsy. Procrastination is a lifelong problem and it can’t be stopped forever.
But it can be delayed and avoided as much as possible. Highly focused people don’t procrastinate often. Sure, they might be tempted to do the tasks later, but they learn to control their urge and manage to push past their problems.
I’ve written a detailed article about procrastination and 8 ways to tackle procrastination. Read this article and you’ll be on your path to eliminating procrastination.
11. Staying in their comfort zone
Know this – if you want to be successful and want to achieve great things in life, you have to get out of your comfort zone. Weak people stay in their comfort zones and give up easily.
Highly focused people realize that only when you’re out of your comfort zones, your true potential can be seen. Staying in that small circle won’t get you to where you want to be in the long run. Learn to take risks, you’ll thank me later.
12. Against Pivoting
Change is the new constant. In a highly competitive and dynamic market, if you don’t pivot when you should, you’ll be wiped out in no time.
Circumstances change all the time, so do people, you need to learn to adapt to things and change when necessary.
Adapting to change isn’t easy, it’s difficult but if you constantly try to do something new, it will be much easier. Thus when the tide comes your way, you can easily pivot and profit.
13. Keep doing the same mistake
It’s okay to make a mistake, it’s not okay to make the same mistake again and AGAIN. Mentally focused people learn from their mistakes and ensure they don’t repeat the same mistake.
If you did something wrong, accept it and figure out how you won’t repeat the same mistake next time.
14. Giving up
There is nothing greater than giving up on your dreams. A weak person always gives up the moment things get tough. It’s easy to walk away from a problem, it’s not easy to face the problem and find a solution to the problem at hand.
Highly focused people believe in themselves and they know no matter what, they will try their best and make it happen. Their success depends on their efforts and no one can stop them from achieving success.
How to be a Highly Focused Person
Developing these traits will take time, you’ll face loads of hardships along the way but if you can stay consistent and try doing things like highly focused people, I’m sure you’ll reach your destination much faster than you expected.
Which of these traits do you follow? Share it down in the comments below.
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